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Parenting---Roots and Wings
I’m sure many of you have heard that old Hallmark card adage that goes something like this: Parents give their children two great gifts---one is roots, the other is wings. This is what I address in this article. As parents, we pray for our...
Rediscovering Love and Intimacy
Wendy started counseling with me because Terence, her husband of 14 years, had just expressed to her that he wanted to end their relationship. Wendy, terrified of being alone, was panicked. Within a few minutes of speaking with her in a phone...
Selecting a Baby Shower Theme: Easy as One Two Three
No aspect of party planning is more crucial and sometimes mind boggling to a baby shower planner than selecting the baby shower theme. There are almost too many ideas available today, and often the host of a party finds themselves suffering...
The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask…
The question I have for you drives right to the heart of the matter. It could alter that tired, haggard feeling you have at the end of a day or weekend. It could alter the life of your children for the better and the life of their future...
The Quest for Intimacy and Passion: Challenges for the ACD
As you may know, the divorce rate continues to hover around fifty percent, where it has been now for some time. If half of marriages end in divorce today, it is likely that many of you—like me—are ACD’s—Adult Children of Divorce. How has our...
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Attract True Love: Don't Date Half a Man
I get lots of mail from women who are involved with married or otherwise attached men. They invariably ask how long they should wait for a guy to leave his wife or girlfriend before giving him the heave-ho.
My answer is always the same: Give the jerk the heave-ho now. Immediately!
Why any woman would date a man in the hopes that he will eventually leave a wife or girlfriend baffles me. Even if he makes good on his promise, this woman will snare a dubious prize: A creep who is capable of fleeing a relationship as soon as another female turns his head. She's netted herself a half-man.
In case you're dating a half-man and kidding yourself into believing his infidelity won't ever be your problem, ask yourself how you would like it if another woman snatched your man. If he's "snatchable," it means he's unable to commit fully to a relationship, and it will only be a matter of time before you wind up sharing him with someone else.
Women who date errant husbands and boyfriends are poaching other women's men. It's wrong. And, as your mother might have told you, wrong actions invariably lead to painful consequences.
If you have the bad fortune to be in this situation and choose to take your chances with Lover Boy, you can be relatively sure:
a) You'll wind up spending all your Christmases choking on Aunt
Hilda's dry quiche and being subjected to Uncle Charlie's drooly denture readjustments (while, at the very same time in a Norman Rockwell scene across
town, Lover Boy and his wife are joyfully beholding their children
tearing open presents under their tree).
Or:
b) You'll wind up the jittery wife of a man who cut and run on his first wife and children. Trust me; if this scenario pans out, you will find
yourself looking over your shoulder very day for the rest of your life. You'd have a much better time with Hilda and Charlie.
Is any guy worth it?
I didn't think so.
If you're stuck on a half-man, unstick yourself immediately. Stop taking his calls. Find another route home from work to avoid running into him. If you have to, get another job. Change your phone number. Give him the slip; your happiness and self-respect are at stake.
You deserve a whole man, so hold out for one. Raise your standards for a guy who's capable of loyalty and true love. He's out there. I
promise.
About the Author
Terry Hernon MacDonald is the author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams." Sign up for free dating tips at http://www.marrysmart.com . Check out Terry's blog at http://happygirlmusing.blogspot.com .
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